Category: Dating and Relationships
Hi all,
I don't necessarily want to sound off here, but I don't know about relationships anymore. I've just lost my third partner, and it's really difficult. It was, an ok breakup I guess. I don't know how easy it'll be to just be his friend. Maybe I'm trying to sell myself here. Details of what I mean are in my profile. I just want to know what people think about trying again when your heart's broken for a third time?
It's extremely hard, but there's always a chance. You'll eventually find the right one. though the pain and heartache may be great, the happiness you'll gain when finding the one who you can remain with will make that pain seem like a memory. DOn't give up. Greave for your loss, but don't give up.
Oh, it isn't easy but it is possible.
I've always looked at relationships this way: Don't look too hard. You'll find the right person when you least expect it.
I don't believe in telling people they'll find "the one" cause not everyone wants that in life (I sure don't). but, you'll at least find happiness in some way if you choose to pull yourself out of the heartbreak.
i agree; good luck to you, and I hope you find happiness in some way in your life :)
And whatever you do, don't try to go on the rebound. I think we've all been guilty of that at least once, but it makes the pain 10 times worse after that relationship crashes and burns as well, which it usually does practically before it began.
As for me, I could do without all the drama LOL. My acebook page says in a relationship, sure, but that was a last ditch effort to deter a girl thirteen years younger thanI am who's been hitting on me for quite some time while stringing others along.
yikes
well, if this is your third long-term relationship break-up, perhaps you need to evaluate why it is you don't seem to have lasting relationships. What is it that goes wrong? This isn't about blame; but sometimes our own actions can determine whether or not we are lucky or unlucky...
Exactly. and sometimes those actions can be nothing more than just going for the wrong types of people. Perhaps you're dating people with whom you connect with right away, for example. I'm not saying you're destined to be doomed with a particular person if you find you click instantly, but sometimes that can make it difficult not to rush into a relationship with the person when you're really not ready.
As long as you keep your options open, and don't close yourself off, the odds are in your favor that you will find someone for you.
I have instigated several relationships, and screwed several up in various ways. However, pushing onward is the only way I've found to deal, for better or worse.
It helps to remember your self-worth, whether the partners you have had agree with that or not. For every person who treats you like an ass, or who is one himself, there are three more who will treat you with the respect and care you deserve.
Appologies for the lack of grammar; I really ought to be sleeping at the moment, but I had to try to give some encouragement here.
I agree with sugarbaby. It is important to take a step back and look in the mirror. As she said, it isn't about blame at all.
No, it isn't. It's about self-reflection. I had to do a lot of that myself after my last relationship. And I'm really not in a hurry to get into another one, either.
Yeah, I say relax and enjoy your life, you've got plenty of time for relationships. Take it easy, and don't do the rebound thing.
Thanks for the encouragement, people. I needed that. Still struggling with it, but have now signed onto dating sites, so who knows. I'm not desperate, however. I am seeing my ex one last time, but I'm hoping we can get a good friendship out of that. Here's to the future, I guess. But I've done a lot of talking, including to my ex's and I think I know what to do this time.
Breaking up sicks, it hurts, but someone better always comes into the picture, and you will be ten times as happy with the next guy.
take it easy. and all the best. .